Language of Negotiation

The following terms should become part of every sales entrepreneur's vocabulary.

1. Concessions. Giving in to a customer's request without asking for anything in return. Concessions are central to creative negotiation. They are the backbone to a mutually accepted outcome as they acknowledge the other party and communicate sensitivity to his or her issues and demands. Initial concessions can be effective—they communicate that you are willing and that your intentions are honorable. Many authors suggest that negotiation involves a "progression of concessions." Once again, your min-max points must be clearly defined prior to giving concessions. Know your parameters and don't give away the farm. Begin the negotiation by offering small concessions. Concede the items or issues to which you attach little importance. The sooner you demonstrate your willingness to negotiate, the sooner the customer will respond in kind. Don't give away big concessions too early. Use them to respond to a customer's concession or to secure the deal: "Can we confirm the deal, if I give you XX?" However, you need to draw the line when your min-point is being compromised.
2. Trade-Offs. Give customers what they want in return for something of comparable value. Value is perception. The item may not be equal in monetary terms, but it may be equal in perceived value. As you've heard before, "One man's garbage is another man's treasure." Once again, know your must-have issues and your min-max points before determining what you are willing to trade. The power of trade-offs is enormous and can have a tremendous impact on your productivity. By asking for a trade-off you elevate the value of your concession. It also stops the grinding process. Marry your concession to a trade-off, otherwise your customer will continue to make demands. You might as well say, "Sure, here you go, it's yours for the asking." A confident negotiator exercises give (concessions) and take (trade-offs) throughout the negotiation process, moving the dialogue toward a win-win-win-win solution. However, the rule of thumb is to stay flexible—there is always a way.
3. Walk-Point. The point where you walk away from the deal because your minimum must-have issues are not being met. If through trade-offs and concessions you are unable to reach an agreement that satisfies your predetermined parameters, your only option may be to walk. However, walking may only be a temporary solution. Both parties may be receptive to a recess, a cooling-off period. In the interest of an agreement, you may both agree to revisit your parameters and get together again tomorrow, next week, or next month. Although both parties may privately wish there were some way to get back together, they usually don't know how to arrange a reconciliation. Open and honest communication, coupled with an attitude of win-win-win-win, is your key to avoiding an impass.
4. Impass/Deadlock. Where communication no longer moves the agreement forward and conversation seems to go in circles. There is nothing wrong with deadlock—either party has the right to prefer no deal to one that falls short of their min-point. How do we break an impass? Change the negotiators, change the parameters, call a third party to mediate, change the shape of money (larger deposit, different terms, cash versus credit), or consider changing venues. These tactics can help create a climate in which new alternatives can be developed. There is always a way.
5. Agree to Disagree. Both parties may agree to disagree rather than reaching an agreement that compromises both parties, leaving each resentful and disappointed. If your agreement is undermined you may lack the commitment necessary to carry it out. Once again, this could be a temporary situation. Negotiation might be better served two or three months down the road. This tactic can be effective in personal relationships as well. It can even work with your spouse!
6. Confessions. Not only are confessions good for the soul, but they can be a good tactic for negotiators. Confessing— telling all you know, revealing your motives and needs—can be a good way to gain empathy. People tend to be more charitable to someone who tells all. You also demonstrate honesty and a sincere desire to do business. However, no need to share your personal net worth or your most recent sexual fantasy.
   

Principle #4: Negotiate Price, Don't Sell It

Is price the most important aspect of the sale? No. Never has been, never will be. Customers have never based their buying decisions solely on price and I doubt they ever will. However, salespeople convince themselves that price is the number one motivator to purchase. Studies show that salespeople bring up price before the customer does 60% of the time. Why? I'm not sure but I suppose salespeople feel obligated to bring it up, or perhaps they have been trained to do so. It could even be lack of confidence or corporate self-esteem.

Many salespeople violate the sales process by introducing price too soon. Ideally, price should not be discussed until after your initial confirmation. During the call you need to focus on selling value and benefits to the customer. Don't mention price unless the customer asks or you are negotiating. I realize this concept may seem somewhat manipulative and irresponsible, but it isn't. I have confirmed several deals without the customer or me mentioning price. I think it's part of the rapport and trust issue I spoke of earlier. If a customer trusts you and feels comfortable with you, price is not an important issue. There is an implied understanding that your price will be competitive, otherwise you wouldn't be in business.

By shifting the conversation to price prior to initial confirmation, the salesperson has invited the customer to openly challenge the price. Some salespeople are convinced the customer's mandate is to hammer the salesperson into submission, finally succumbing to a rock-bottom price. Classic tactic of a C account. How to negotiate against price and discount pressure is a common challenge among sales professionals. You've probably heard it before, "Your price is too high. You'll just have to do better," or "It's a competitive market. Your competitors can beat that price," or "You'll have to show more flexibility on your discounting," and so it goes. When salespeople concede too quickly in these situations they not only reduce profitability, but also devalue their customers' perceptions of the product or service. Don't respond by asking, "What's the price they're offering you?" or "What price do I have to beat?" This is a common mistake because it shifts the focus to pure price and discount levels. Experienced negotiators shift the focus to value comparisons versus price comparisons.

When dealing with the price issue, be guided by knowing your min-max points. If you have price or discount flexibility, do not give it all away at once. Instead, concede slowly and reluctantly. Also, consider trading price concessions for major commitments. It could sound like this: "If I give you X price, will you give me net 10-day terms (or COD terms)?" If the customer is insistent on a discounted price don't hesitate to ask for something from them that makes the deal a win-win-win-win.

Acknowledge the customer's curiosity about price, but don't get sucked into a price debate prior to initial confirmation. For example, when you ask for their business using the five magic words in, your customers may inquire about your price. Simply say, "Yes, I'm sure we both recognize that price is important, but at this point can we agree to do business together based on the benefits discussed, as long as I can give you a competitive price?" If the customer says yes to your initial confirmation, you now have a willing party with whom to negotiate. Consider the initial confirmation as a conditional sale; conditional upon working out terms and conditions supported by a competitive price. What salespeople need to realize is that if a fair price cannot be worked out then there is no deal. Final confirmation is conditional upon successful negotiation. However, don't negotiate all aspects of the deal and then focus separately on price. Make sure price or discount is part of the whole package, not a separate negotiation.

During negotiation be cognizant of your customer's behavioral style, and adapt. If you are selling to a Director and she wants to know the price prior to initial confirmation, I would be inclined to acknowledge the request and offer a price range. Don't be exact with your answer.

Principle #5: Negotiate the Issues, not the Personalities

Often, what causes you to become frustrated or angry in a negotiation is not the topic or issue, but your customer's personality traits. By putting emotional distance between yourself and the negotiation you gain a tremendous advantage. Negotiations often unleash emotions that short-circuit rational processes. We sometimes abandon our carefully designed strategy and resort to a flight or fight response. The key to effective, win-win negotiation is to react unemotionally.

From time to time you may find yourself dealing with an individual you do not particularly care for. Chances are you wouldn't invite him to go camping with you, but he may represent an A account and a sizeable business opportunity. Experienced negotiators understand that professionalism requires the ability to distance oneself from any emotional distractions. These may include biases, perceptions, values, fear of being exploited, egos, feelings, moods, stress, and so on. Parties can get too caught up in the emotions of negotiation. They become too close to the deal and overlook important facts that may help move the deal forward. In spite of all your efforts to build a personal relationship you may find yourself dealing with just a corporate relationship. You can both still benefit by simply doing business together and nothing else. Don't entangle relationship challenges within the negotiating process.

For most salespeople, the major barrier is simply the fear of negotiation. The very thought sends paralyzing shivers up their spines. The toughest hurdle is learning to be confident enough to stand up to the challenge. This means developing the ability to comfortably express a position without hurting anyone or being hurt. Many people find the straightforward, aggressive, business dialogue of negotiation intimidating. It's the same challenge with confirming: the fear of rejection or perhaps sounding too aggressive. Our natural human tendencies prevail—in our adolescent years we were taught that it was polite not to ask for things and never to be confrontational.

The best approach to dealing with the emotional aspect of negotiation is the pause button. Pushing the pause button means putting the negotiation on hold while you take a break to reevaluate the situation. This may be for a few minutes or an hour or after you have slept on it. Michael and Mini Donaldson offer this explanation in their book, Negotiation for Dummies:

Knowing when and how to push the pause button not only endows you with an aura of composure and confidence, but also gives you control over all the critical points of the negotiation.

They go on to say:

No single skill can be as helpful to you as the pause button in any situation laden with heavy emotional overtones. Almost by definition, you cannot fully prepare ahead of time for these situations. Your judicious use of the pause button can compensate. Pushing the pause button produces better results... or at least results that you feel better about.

The message is clear: don't be afraid to utilize your pause button. Use it to re-evaluate your position. Perhaps in the interest of flexibility it can become an opportunity to reconsider your must-have issues and your min-max points. Remember, with two willing parties, there is always a way.